When my children start to express curiosity about sexuality, I am not going to tell them that they’re too young to be asking or that “if you have sex you get pregnant”. The age at which children start to ask about sex indicates they are already ready to be talking about it. Some parents may find it is much earlier than they expected, and others may find that their children never want to talk about sexuality. It is a very personal subject, but it should not be taboo.
When a girl walks into the restaurant wearing a tight skirt, I am not going to tell my daughter that the girl is a slut and forbid her from dressing similarly. Instead, I am not going to comment at all unless someone else does. Whether it is a nudist walking in or a woman wearing a burka, it will not be my place to comment and I will teach my children to never voice their judgments either. However, if my children or anyone else comments on the “slut” walking in, I am going to tell them that you cannot judge how many people someone sleeps with based off how they dress, and that you should not judge them based off how many people they sleep with either.
When my son teases his friend that he is being a “pussy”, I will chastise him. I will not have my children contribute to a society that condemns femininity. I am also going to tell my son that he is not obligated to dedicate his life to masculinity, nor sentence anyone else to a specific gender role. My children will not think that their gender correlates to a specific color or behavior. People are not pure shades of pink and blue, but rather unique combinations with real texture.
When my children start to lock their doors and bring home partners, I am not going to forbid them from getting physical or demand to know every detail. Instead, I will make sure that they know everything about being safe and have clear access to protection. I will not be that parent that starts screaming hysterically when they find a condom in their child’s bedroom. Through communication and honesty, I will make sure that my children can have the safest and most fulfilling sex life possible."
- the way sexuality was never addressed in my family (via goddess-river)
Over at the Washington Post, a supremely out of touch article by conservative columnist George F. Will makes the infuriating claim that victims of sexual assault enjoy “a coveted status that confers privileges.” His logic suggests that because of a supposed liberal plot to bestow some sort of benefit on rape survivors “victims proliferate.”
Of all the tone-deaf rape-denying arguments we’ve heard, this one might take the cake.
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commentator 1: Everybody’s wondering what impact it [Chelsea Clinton’s pregnancy] might have on Hillary Clinton’s decision to run for PResident.
commentator 2: Does the fact that she’s going to become a grandmother, on top of some of the other considerations, factor in?
commentator 3: Could it put a bump in Hillary’s 2016 plans? And is it sexist to ask?
Jon Stewart: No, silly billy. Of course it’s not sexist. Even though it’s a question that has never ever been posed to a male candidate ever. For god’s sake, Mitt Romney has like a litter of grandchildren. If I’m not mistaken, Mitt Romney has a grandchild petting zoo. He got crushed in an election by someone with no grandchildren, yet somehow the grandchild factor never came up in the race between Obama and Romney.
It’s as though men and women are treated differently.
- Lewis Carroll, Through the Looking-Glass (via a-beautiful-word)